ARE YOU WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?
During a seminar, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?”
The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?”
In all seriousness, she answered “How did you know?”
“Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind.” replied the author.
Here’s the answer:
Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.
People in love sometimes say, I was swept of my feet. Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone
else. This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.
I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this)
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know
WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.
Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.
Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.
Remember this always: the universe determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go!
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climb a mountain together
This was something I really needed right now.
This is, in fact, the most important post on the internet.
Every male should be required to read this.
Every person on earth should read this.
I’m crying laughing so hard because THE ACCURACY OF THIS IS ASTOUNDING.
This is important. Stop big cat hunting. This literally is making me cry.
The way the lion tries to shut out the light…
:Why would you shoot it?
I hate people like Melissa B. How could you do such a thing honestly. You’re a giant piece of garbage.
I love to hunt, but no.
Thank you sooo much!!
50 PREGNANCY QUESTIONS
1. How far along are you?
15 weeks 1 day! :) Officially telling everybody!!
2. How long have you and the father been together?
3. Are you boyfriend/girlfriend, married, or not together?
4. Do you live in the city, country, suburbs?
Technically the suburbs of Kansas City but it’s a smallish town.
5. Was the pregnancy planned?
Yes, we have been trying for over 5 years.
6. Do you have any other children?
Nope. Unless you count our fur children!
7. When is your due date?
8. What do you think the baby will look like?
No idea but hazel/brown eyes and dark hair.
9. Do you plan on a natural birth or having an epidural?
I have absolutely no idea. I would like to try natural, though in all honesty, I just want what’s safest for my child!
10. How did your parents react?
Thrilled it will be the first grandchild.
11. How did the baby’s father’s parents react?
Excited because they have been waiting as long as we have.
12. When did you tell them?
Told his dad and my mom right away. Told everybody else at the 15 week mark with early Christmas cards with a picture of the sonogram.
13. Did you consider abortion or adoption?
No, we have tried very hard to have this baby!
14. What were your first symptoms?
I felt nauseas in the mornings until I would eat something and my breasts were incredibly sore. When I thought it had been two weeks after ovulation I started taking at home pregnancy tests they were all negative. So after about 3.5 weeks of symptoms and negative results went to the drs and got a blood test. It was on a Saturday and the blood work wasn’t supposed to come back till Monday, they didn’t get back to me that day with the results and I got tired of waiting so I took another at home pregnancy test and it was positive the next day the doctor called me and told me it was very faintly positive. So when I thought I was 5-6 weeks or so because of the date of my last period and when I “should” have ovulated I was actually only 3 weeks or so meaning I literally started feeling symptoms right after conception. I then had more blood tests and ultrasounds to confirm everything and determine a due date!
15. How did you find out?
16. Have you had an ultrasound?
Yes a few. I had two within the first 8 weeks of finding out to determine how far along I really was then had one for my nuchal translucency test. Will have another in a few weeks or so to determine the gender!
17. Have you heard the heart beat?
Yes! I want to invest in a Doppler to hear it at home.
18. Do you know the gender?
I WISH! I want to start everything! We need to pick a name and a theme for the nursery and buying clothes! :)
19. What gender are you hoping for?
We really want a boy first but we just want a perfect healthy baby!
20. What girl/boy names did you think about?
Not really sure we don’t know, if a boy he will have the middle name Michael (tradition in my husband’s family) but other than that nothing. We want to wait till we know the gender but we have plenty of time!
21. How does the father feel about the pregnancy?
He is finally getting more excited! He has been really excited since the beginning but we were both being very conservative with everything because we wanted to make sure we were in the “safe” zone before getting too excited.
22. Do you have any supplies yet?
We have finally bought our first baby item a couple of onesies. We wanted to wait.
23. Have you felt the baby kick yet?
I have felt my uterus growing and moving but I haven’t felt him/her move exactly.
24. Have you decorated the nursery?
Nope and we won’t be till after he/she is born which is sad but we have to wait because we will be moving right after the baby is born.
25. What are you looking forward to?
I’m looking forward to everything— feeling their little kicks, figuring out the gender, decorating, finally getting to enjoy my little miracle!
27. Are you financially able to care for a child?
28. What is your worst symptom?
Right now, it’s the fatigue. I’m exhausted. ALL. THE. TIME. And hungry!
29. Have you had any food cravings?
Steak! Lol and salad
30. Have you had any food aversions?
31. Do you wear maternity clothes?
I have been wearing a lot of sweats and stretch pants but nothing strictly maternity yet. I will be buying some soon though.
32. Do you have stretch marks?
Yes but they were there before I got pregnant.
33. Do you smoke or drink?
34. Do you take prenatal vitamins?
Yup and Progesterone and Metformin.
35. Are you going to breastfeed or use formula?
I’m definitely going to try breastfeeding. But, I’m not going to be too disappointed if I have to supplement formula. I’m going to give it all I’ve got, though! Whatever is best for my baby especially if he/she needs more nutrients then I can provide.
36. Are you going to use disposable or cloth diapers?
We are going to try cloth.
37. Will you circumcise if it’s a boy?
We have talked about it a little….not sure either way yet, but leaning strongly towards NOT.
38. What is your weight gain so far?
Haven’t gained anything yet and hoping to keep it that way.
39. Has your baby got the hiccups yet?
Not that I know of.
40. How big is the baby so far?
This week the baby is the size of an apple and is about 4 inches long from head to rump.
41. How are you sleeping?
Like a rock unless I have to pee.
42. Any complications with your pregnancy?
Some bleeding, in a few circumstances but so far so good.
43. Have you seen your baby do any strange things during an ultrasound?
During the last ultrasound he/she was moving around, stretching out, opening and closing his mouth and sucking on his hand.
44. Do you get any criticism about your pregnancy?
So far nothing but I don’t associate myself with people who may criticize me in a negative way. Everybody who knows I am pregnant knows that we have been wanting and trying for this for so long!
45. How did you tell your partner?
I told him when I first needed to buy a test but also told him to not get his hopes up. Then we went to the hospital together when I had the blood test but on Monday when I took the HPT I called him at work to tell him it was positive! :)
46. Will you send child to private, public, homeschool or charter school?
No clue maybe private but we have to see considering we are military I would like my child to have the best education possible.
49. Are you having twins or a singleton?
Just one baby!
50. What are five words that describe how you feel today?
Ecstatic!! HUNGRY! Tired! Hopeful! Blessed!
Some of you may know by now but if not we are crazy excited to finally be able to announce that Jeff and I are expecting our little miracle in May!! We have been keeping it quiet because we wanted to make sure that we were having a healthy pregnancy and baby. So far so good everything looks and sounds perfect!! I am 15 weeks pregnant and we do not know the gender of the baby yet but are hoping to find out soon! We are both so very happy and excited about this miracle we have been blessed with. We can’t wait to find out everything we can about this baby and finally be able to meet our little nugget in May of 2014!